. PSHEeducation | 'University Here I Come': Transition time…for mother and daughter

This time of year, for years before and years to come, is the time when many of our ‘kids’ go to Uni’. All over the country parents are going through the process of letting go as their children are going through the process of learning to be independent.
And so it is that a few weeks ago I too joined the ranks of those parents with cars bursting at the seams, hauling up the motorway with boxes brimming, only to return with a few unwanted items and a surreal realisation that the end of a major chapter has been thrust upon me with such a mixture of sadness, happiness and pride it was enough to send me into a torrent of strange emotions which is never a good thing on a motorway!
There are so many transitions in a child’s life – I deal with these regularly in my sessions with schools. The children worry that they won’t fit in, the work will be too hard, they will be bullied… As parents we learn to put our own worries aside and be strong to carry them through - if only they knew that each step is as scary for us as for them! Because of course each step is new for us too – we may be adults but we have never been adults before!
I realised on my long drive home that day that the process of being a parent – a mum - is all consuming. From the moment that child is born you worry and think about them – are they too hot? Too cold? Happy? Hungry? Thirsty? That’s just the physical stuff… there’s the emotional and health aspects too and then as they get older giving them the chance to be more independent whilst still keeping them safe…
So it was on this long journey home that I contemplated such things. That little girl that, along with her brother, has filled my waking moments is now embarking on her journey into adulthood. On the one hand I feel incredibly proud that I have helped get her to this place in her life, studying what she loves but on the other hand there is now a big gaping hole where my daughter’s daily needs were absorbed into my life.
I have come to love working with parents alongside their children. Doing sessions for them both ‘covers all angles’ within the PSHE subjects that I teach and this type of education for all is something I am very passionate about – it is so important not to forget parents!
The power of sharing and realising you are not alone on your journey, no matter what age or issue you are going through is a powerful tonic often forgotten.
I wonder, if we could somehow create a system where everyone with a problem was able to talk to at least one other person with the same problem, whether our mental health as a nation would reap the benefits? I suspect it would…big time.
So, I’ve told you how I feel…anyone out there feel the same?